Healing the Family

When we say Healing Starts at the Center, we are referring to many "Centers". First and foremost, healing must start at YOUR center. It must come from within and be all about you. Your story, your history, your path, your traumas. All of it. But then, healing can also happen in whole families as well. The home is your center, your core, the basis of your foundation here on earth. It's where we can go to feel safe and secure, where we get our needs met and where we can bring all of life's problems to be heard and navigated. But, for some, the home is not that safe haven at all, but instead another source of stress and chaos.  

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As we begin to heal ourselves, we not only create space for others to begin their own healing journey but, we change the dynamics of all the social systems we belong to, including our family dynamics.  We have seen, time and time again, one person begin to make changes to better themselves, whether it be beginning chiropractic care, changing eating habits, getting more routine self-care, or just a little mental space to allow all the thoughts to settle, and a positive ripple effect happens in their family, among their co-workers, or in their marriage.

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We function best when our body and mind are at ease. We can think clearly, be more flexible and adaptable, and tolerate much more when we are at ease. Stress takes us out of that ease and challenges our ability to show up as our best selves (check out our post on the Four Pillars of Health to see all the forms stress comes in! LINK TO POST). We think much more from our reptilian (emotion) brain and less from our evolved logical brain. We are less resilient and adaptable to change and we are certainly less tolerant. The challenge here is knowing what your needs are as well as the needs of those around you who depend on you. If we don't know what our needs are, how can we ever expect to get them met? By the same token, if we don't know and understand the needs of our kids and/or spouse, how can we ever expect to contribute in a meaningful way that allows for harmony and not chaos? It may seem rather rudimentary, but trust us when we say - it makes a HUGE difference.

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So, what does one do to start healing themselves and their families?!

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First, we have to focus on taking care of us. The old saying "you can't pour from an empty cup" is so true. And while many of us sacrifice ourselves to help others, in the end everyone loses in that exchange.

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When we create space for ourselves to heal, we subconsciously invite others around us to do the same. This tends to lead to more organization and harmony.

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Our home is our place of refuge and should be a sacred space, but even sacred spaces take work and upkeep. Start by first acknowledging your own needs and making requests to help get them met. From there you can ask the other people in your home what their needs are and offer to help get them met as well. The result = peace.